If penetration hurts even when you are wet and aroused, there are some things that you need to consider. Firstly, you might not be aroused enough! I know, we are all taught by social media, movies, books and porn, that when a woman is wet she is ready. But the truth is that you might…
There are many, many reasons that sex hurts. One of the difficult things about having genital pain, or sex hurting, can be working out what is actually happening. And unfortunately I know that a lot of you have been looking for answers for a long time, and also looking for health professionals to help you…
Sex should never be painful, ever. (Unless you want it to be!). Most women are told that sex is going to be painful at least the first time. We are taught that we have a bit of skin, called a hymen or a corona, and that is going to need to break the first time…
Like a lot of you, I was one of those people who had completely blocked out the fact that I had genital and sexual pain. I had blocked it out so completely that if anyone had asked me, I would have said ‘nope, not me’. Until one experience was so painful that it was impossible…
Did you know that when you feel shame, it actually causes inflammation in your body? This is because shame triggers our stress hormones to release, which triggers inflammation in the body. Why do we care about inflammation? Because it can lead to so many issues. We’re talking:DepressionAnxietyChronic pain including genital painLow libido In fact, increased…
Before we talk about why we’re not turned on, let’s talk about our hearts, and let’s talk about boundaries. Because we can’t talk about turn on without talking about both of these first. We can’t ignore our hearts, because a body that isn’t loved from the inside out has a harder time surrendering into arousal…
You’ve acknowledged that your body feels like it’s asleep. Maybe you’re numb. Or maybe you just don’t feel like it, ever. But you want to. You miss it because you used to have it, or you miss it because you’ve never had it. A juicy, alive, turned on body. And you’re hoping that someone or…
If you have ever felt like you were less of a woman because you couldn’t find your arousal no matter what tricks and toys you tried, Or if you have felt guilty because of your partner and what you think they need and want and how you can’t give that to them, Or if you…
I am part of a Facebook group with over 60,000 members, all women, and one of the most common post reads something like ‘I used to like sex but now I have no libido’, or ‘I’ve never felt turned on’. Usually followed by the question ‘What can I do?’ The comments are always filled with…
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